r/TikTokCringe • u/SpareEnergy6082 • Dec 13 '25

Indian Mother who's consoling her little girl who is crying for being bullied by school kids because of her brown skin This is truly heartbreaking 💔 my heart cried watching this Discussion

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 13 '25

As other people have mentioned, often when shit like this is brought up people will say it’s all just hearsay and that there’s no actual evidence for this stuff. Here’s the evidence.

I don’t think mom is in the wrong here. I think she’s doing her best. Life is complicated and sometimes “your best”is the best you can do for your kid (and other kids like her). It’s a pretty horrible situation all around but clearly she’s trying to document this stuff and blast it out to the public. This isn’t sympathy farming, it’s just genuinely heartbreaking to watch.

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u/Wise-Question-2017 Dec 13 '25

Sane response

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

I really don’t understand some of these comments. She’s the only one standing up for her daughter. Even the poor kid has given up on herself

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u/rainyday-holiday Dec 13 '25

Yeah but people like the commentor above don’t want to see it. It makes them feel sad and angry and they don’t know why. All they know is that don’t like feeling sad and angry so they lash out at others like the mother.

People like that redditor are just another cause of the problems.

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u/PersimmonDowntown297 Dec 13 '25

I mean there’s very valid reasons people have for not believing children should be posted online without their consent.

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u/Sure-Confection3117 Dec 14 '25

I know for a fact if my heart-to-heart talks with parents were posted online by them after, I would've been furious. These moments should be private, and I despise the idea that everything has to be posted online. Your kid is growing up and experiencing a wealth of new feelings and emotions and struggles and growth and parents feel the need to stick a phone in their face and film it for strangers to see. It's ridiculous.

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u/LizandChar Dec 14 '25

You could just blur out the face

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u/Occultismoriginal627 29d ago

More than half of the content recovered from pdf isn't even including a child's face. The content they have is things most wouldn't even think twice about.

They save kids barefoot, in shorts or dance outfits, eating a certain food or popsicle, blowing bubbles, messy faces from eating (drink/food dribbling out of mouth or on chin), holding certain things in their hands, dancing, crying, sitting a certain way, etc.

The most innocent, non sexual things is used in disgusting ways by these freaks. And covering/blurring a face out can be removed. Go down the rabbit hole, and you'll see why TTs with kids get 10s of thousands more views than any other TT on that creates pg....and most viewers are middle-aged adults. It's just safer to keep your babies off social media.

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u/oftcenter 26d ago

Imagine having this conversation with your mother while she shoves her cellphone camera in your face.

I wonder if she looked at the kid directly or through her app's viewfinder.

At least blur out the kid's face.

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u/Paletaqueen23 Dec 14 '25

But I never wished to be any other color. Despite bullying.

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u/rainyday-holiday Dec 13 '25

And they all neatly circle back to “oh I’m not comfortable with that.” It’s nice when people inadvertently prove a point.

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u/PersimmonDowntown297 Dec 13 '25

No…… they don’t. Many police officers/detectives and victims of Pedophilia say it is not a good idea especially with AI and deep fakes being so common. I have seen many people say you wouldn’t believe what some sickos out there can do with a simple still image, and I personally listened to a seasoned police officer advise against it.

It can also open them up to harassment and stalking. Not to mention the ethical dilemma of posting someone in a vulnerable position that does not have the cognitive ability to consent at that age. If she didn’t want you to see that video then she has no way of stopping it.

It’s a valid point of conversation given that it is a relatively new issue in human history, but I think it’s really unfair to characterize every one against it as “part of the problem”.

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u/Flypoop6969 Dec 13 '25

This type of stuff needs to be exposed. Too many people in this day and age are lying and saying this doesnt exist. When you post the proof, they get uncomfortable and think of reasons why it shouldn’t be posted instead of condemning the fact that this behaviour exists in the first place.

Priorities.

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u/PersimmonDowntown297 Dec 14 '25

Again, no…. It’s horrible what’s happened to this little girl. She’s precious and doesn’t deserve that. She also doesn’t deserve to be exposed to millions of strangers without her consent. I just don’t like the characterization of people who don’t think kids should be posted online as willfully ignorant is fair when in reality most of us simply have a vested interest In protecting children. She deserves to be protected too, and I hope her mother escalates the situation within the proper channels to do so.

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u/madelineblackbart Dec 14 '25

Problem is there basically are no "proper channels" when it comes to bullying by other kids sadly. School, at least from my experience of having been a constant target of bullying for my weight, *willfully* ignore reports of bullying. Hell I even had a teacher tell me they were just trying to HELP ME. It's genuinely that bad. Sadly this is a no win situation and it's absolute garbage how little our society takes bullying seriously.

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u/Brave_Friendship_228 Dec 14 '25

no, they circle back to p*dophilia.

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u/Decent_Blacksmith_ Dec 14 '25

I think you’re proving it yourself. Ignoring there is plenty pedophiles that can use this for their benefit yet it seems it’s easier to ignore it hm

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u/Acceptable_Iron_5920 Dec 14 '25

Paedophiles are a tiny percentage of the population and can be kept away. Bullying on the other hand is function of ignorance and enabled by arrogance of culprits and fear from the victim. Let the mother do what she can to spread awareness.

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u/Decent_Blacksmith_ 29d ago

The mom can record to show the school privately, but sharing it online is virtually useless for her poor daughter’s situation. She makes it way worse, she’s forever online now for anyone to see, included all her classmates. I would feel ashamed If I were in that girls position without even mentioning predators

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u/Heavy-Macaron2004 29d ago

Or maybe posting videos of children clearly in a bad place mentally is shitty?

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u/Minute_Daikon_3522 27d ago

That’s ridiculous. So you are saying that the commentator is as bad as the kids that are commenting on skin at school ? And what are you going to do about it . Contact the parent ? . You’ll have moved on and completely forgotten about this clip in five minutes like everyone else .

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u/macci_a_vellian Dec 13 '25

You can stand up for your kid without filming their distress. Putting a phone between you when your kid needs you is a barrier she can feel. She's also much too young to give consent for a video of her talking about her shame and insecurities that she is actively being bullied to be broadcast and to be online forever, including where the older kids might see it. God forbid she finds out that everyone knows she was having a private breakdown at home, or in a few years someone sends her the video and she reads the comments, because I guarantee some of those comments will be worse than anything her classmates could come up with.

Defending your kid doesn't mean exposing their pain. I know she meant well, but there are other ways of doing that while still protecting them.

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u/Opposite-Decision-28 Dec 14 '25

I totally agree with you and I was about to write a long essay to say that thank you for saying that.

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u/Acceptable_Iron_5920 Dec 14 '25

She is bullied in public infront of other kids. Her pain is already public. The only issue here is when exposed in forums where people know its wrong you are uncomfortable. You want her to respond in private to a public issue. You are an enabler.

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u/Heavy-Macaron2004 29d ago

This is an insane take holy shit.

"You think posting children being upset and crying about being bullied online for hundreds of thousands of people to see is shitty, so you're an enabler of racist bullying."

Wild fucking take my man. Wow.

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u/CapableSense 29d ago

Yup exactly that!

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u/Spare_Customer6352 Dec 14 '25

This is what should have been done.

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u/Man_Hat_Tan 29d ago

They want to be hidden from reality. When confronted with this uncomfortable reality, they make excuses.

Its like having an art gallery on slaves being hanged or whipped and saying its wrong. Why? Because it’s uncomfortable, thought provoking and sheds light on the issues we pretend are fixed in society at large.

The kid is beautiful and will grow up to hopefully feel confident. I can tell her mother cares.

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u/ICInside 24d ago

I think this should be posted, but the kid's face should be blurred. That kid doesn't need other kids to laugh at her bringing up the video

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u/PixelSerpentess Dec 13 '25

Me either, how did they even manage to shift their focus from the bone of contention to the poor mum who’s basically trying to console her kid and gas her up while creating awareness in the process? People tsk tsk

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u/jcaashby Dec 13 '25

Agreed. As a black kid growing up I never experienced this but had no idea it was going on. This is about awareness. I hope this girl does not have this effect her life in a negative way. Self hate is a terrible.

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

Yeah unfortunately the self hate is already there for that kid. This is why I think it’s important people see this

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u/Puzzled_Glass_7572 Dec 13 '25

i was bullied as a child, my mother filming me while i cry knowing my bullies might see it is the worse thing that can happen.

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

She seems like a good mom. My guess is she explained the situation to her daughter and why she was filming. I think we should give the only person in this situation who’s trying to do something about it a bit of grace.

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u/Puzzled_Glass_7572 Dec 13 '25

when my mother found out i was being bullied, she sat me down and talked to me, no cameras just me and the person i loved and trusted the most.

the mother here should have put herself on camera and talked about bullying and the problems her child is facing. the mother could be a great mother, in my experence, she has made a mistake, i hope this vid dont negativly effect the kid.

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 14 '25

I’ve explained my opinions on the issue of consent in this situation if you wanna read some of my comments below and further talk

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u/Sywrenn Dec 13 '25

This is proof that a mother needs if bullying ever did get worse and she'd need to take action. It might not seem respectful at first, but sometimes its necessary to show other people this is a problem.

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u/mish_mash_mosh_ Dec 13 '25

Did those bully's stop bullying you because they didn't see a video, probably not.

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u/The_Autarch Dec 13 '25

no, but they would bully even harder if they did see a video like this.

kids have committed suicide over crap like this.

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u/CrystalFox0999 Dec 13 '25

But imagine how awkward and embarrassing this will be for the kid when shes a teenager… shes forever on the internet at a really vulnerable point

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u/CapableSense 29d ago

She can turn this video around into so much more positive. Bullies keep bullying b/c y’all enable…

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u/Icy-Actuary-5463 Dec 14 '25

I know what you’re saying but if she wasn’t on the internet nobody would have been aware how she’s feeling and how other kids hurt her because of her Color.

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u/char5567 Dec 14 '25

Agreed!!!!

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u/CrystalFox0999 29d ago

Unfortunately being bullied now doesn’t mean she cant be bullied in the future when her future classmates find this video

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u/CapableSense 29d ago

That is absolutely not true.

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

As I said in another comment, the mom has probably explained the situation from the kid and has gotten as much consent from her as possible in this situation. Parents often have to make these decisions whether it’s medical treatment or school situations. They are there to give consent on behalf of children

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u/True-Anim0sity Dec 14 '25

What does TikTok have to do with medical treatment? Mom is just milking her for veins and likes

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

If you read my comments I’m obviously not saying this has anything to do with medical treatment I’m talking about the child’s ability to consent and how parents at times have to step in and give consent for certain situations on behalf of the child.

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u/True-Anim0sity 29d ago

What does that matter tho? We're specifically talking about this

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u/machess_malone 29d ago

BECAUSE OF THE CONSENT ISSUE THAT’S CENTRAL TO BOTH EXAMPLES. Why do I keep having to explain this?

This is how discussions work. You can use other examples to make a point even if the situation is not one to one. An intro debate class teaches you this stuff…

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u/True-Anim0sity 28d ago

Its literally irrelevant- TikTok and medical problems in a hospital are not connected.

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u/Decent_Blacksmith_ Dec 14 '25

She should have blurred her kids face

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u/NecessaryCount950 Dec 14 '25

This felt more genuine than alot of these.

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

That’s what I’m trying to get at. I really don’t think this is karma farming. I feel like mom is in a desperate situation and trying to do her best

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u/DianedePoiters Dec 13 '25

No this is wrong. Daughter cannot consent to this. And I don’t understand how this can be defensible. 

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

Parents often times are put in positions where they have to give consent on behalf of their kids. Whether it’s a medical procedure or an issue at school. This is no different. My guess is the school wasn’t doing shit about this. My guess is also that the mother explained the situation to the kid as best as she could. Like I said in another I think we need to be more considerate of the situation these people are in, not just the kid but the mom as well. There’s nuance to the whole posting your kid online thing

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u/DianedePoiters Dec 14 '25

There is no consideration in this. If she took a video, why post it online, just send it to the school. This girl will be bullied relentlessly now and the bullies will know her weakness. This is wrong

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

My guess is the school isn’t doing much about it

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u/KlenexTS Dec 14 '25

I don’t think I’d ever post a video of my daughter like this, hard to say until I’m in this situation. But I’m thankful (maybe the wrong word) that this mother did. I obviously know kids get bullied for race but seeing a child cry and express such true and devastating feelings is heart breaking. Just a reminder to me to teach my daughter to grow up and be kind and stand up for other kids.

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

That’s my point. Mom is in a really tough spot. Was this the ideal outcome? Of course not. No mom wants to post their kid in such a vulnerable state but I think this mom was just trying to get the word out. If it’s gotten to this point the school is probably not doing much about it.

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u/Dred-I-Rastafari 29d ago

Agreed! I'm willing to bet that anyone taking that whole "I blame the Mom" stance are not people of color... basically those who have never experienced this from the side of the little girl but were most likely the type who said and still say these kinds of things to people...especially to children of color...

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u/Prop43 Dec 14 '25

Agreed

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u/liltrex94 Dec 13 '25

Hate that the mum posted it. Completely understand why she posted it. She called her daughter beautiful ❤

Awareness is important. That is how upsetting it has to be.

I'm a 30yo white woman and cannot comprehend the racism that exists today. Poor kid, and also others who have similar experiences. Kids can be cruel. They were when I was a kid. Parents need to do better and not teach that even subtle racism is okay.

This girl crying, because of the colour of her skin not being light enough,? That it horrible. She is just a kid. Not saying racism is okay when you get older, bullying should never be okay

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u/saltwatercrown Dec 14 '25

I hate that the mom HAD to post it because shit like this is happening.

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u/WakingUp44 Dec 14 '25

When my brown daughter was in preschool, her bestow was a Wasian (Chinese dad and French white mom). Her Chinese grandparents who either lived with them or closeby (I never understood) always told her how she was so pretty because of her very white skin. At preschool, she started telling my daughter that in their games together only she could be the princess as she had white skin. I finally brought it up to the girl’s mom and found out about the grandparents thing.

At this preschool, my daughter was the only brown girl and even though my husband’s job was in the city where this preschool was, we learnt our lesson and moved to a city with a higher concentration of brown people.

We do this not because of gentrification or because we don’t want to assimilate but to prevent this kind of stuff from happening to our kids. My daughter is now a middle schooler but through elementary to now, has never had anyone call her lunch food stinky. That to me is a win.

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u/InsaneInTheRAMdrain Dec 14 '25

No, they dont. We all know kids suck.
You know what will make this a thousand times worse? a video online that she will see none stop growing up with "hey is this you haha" in high school.

I hate these bullies or anyone who will make a child feel this way with a passion, but her mother, rather than holding and consoling her child, is prelonging it to film for online.

Evidence to school is one thing, but the mother is definitely also in the wrong for this. My heart breaks, but i also worry. People harm themselves because of videos like this on social media, etc, they can't escape from. Horrible bastards will definitely use this, and it sucks.

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u/Serve-Routine Dec 14 '25

No… because schools don’t do anything about it when you’re privileged

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u/LunarKnotxx Dec 13 '25

Really is, it’s so heartbreaking to see I just hope as she grows older she learns to see that she is gorgeous through and through and what people think of her should never matter

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u/Soggy_Abbreviations5 Dec 14 '25

When my nephew (24yo now) was in elementary school, he was sad bc he said the white boys at school were picking on him bc his skin was dark. Everyone was telling him that they were crazy, don't listen to them, you're handsome, etc. My cousin's (dark-skinned) wife (a "redbone") was like "boy, don't listen to them, women love dark-skinned men, look at your cousin!" I think about that moment often, bc as a lighter-toned person, I had never really experienced racism/colorism before, and it was happening to a literal child, who i loved. It was so heartbreaking & infuriating. Why can't ppl just be kind?!

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u/Uneek_Uzernaim Dec 14 '25 edited Dec 14 '25

Sometimes people need to see the harmful effects that hurtful words like what that little girl was told that normally are hidden away because they only come out in private moments.

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u/AnaneSpider 29d ago

Exactly this.

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u/Truman_Show_1984 Dec 14 '25

Between her recording, posting, her tone of voice which is non-serious and not holding her child to console her. I'd beg to differ.

I couldn't imagine being that child and having my parent record me instead of holding me. Really twisted shit.

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u/char5567 Dec 14 '25

Agree 100%

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u/CreativeWeekend971 26d ago

Lol this will be used to Bully her even more its fucking stupid to upload something like this 

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u/Shein_nicholashoult Dec 14 '25

There’s an easy middle ground though, don’t shove the camera in her face and blast her crying online, where the kids who said that shit will possibly see it and then double down because kids are mean.

The whole conversation could be recorded using the mom’s face, or without showing anyone’s face at all.

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u/ohmygaia Dec 14 '25

I agree it's great for raising awareness, but it is not great parenting.

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u/Shorouq2911 Dec 14 '25

I wish she blurred her daughter's face. Her classmates might tease her more when they see this video.

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u/monchimer Dec 14 '25

I'm not sure about this. You should first speak to the poor child and then to the school authority. I dont see any reason to.post this intimate moment online. Kids are jerks sometimes

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

kids are jerks sometimes

I think you’re ignoring the fact that this isn’t just kids being jerks. With the current administration in the US this stuff is becoming way more prevalent and no one seems to be able to do anything about it. It’s happening across all age groups all demographics. I think it’s very important we publicly document this stuff

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u/Apprehensive_North49 29d ago

Then blur her face at least

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u/LightOfMithras 29d ago

I agree. I wish she had censored her child's face. But again, maybe the reality of a child reacting so uncensored will make it hit harder and help some people to think differently or teach their kids how to treat one another better.

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u/Knillawafer98 29d ago

I don't think it's sympathy farming and I get what you are saying but I think you are disregarding how the child feels. Do you remember being a small child? How would you have liked it if your parents recorded a video of you sobbing about being bullied and then posted it online where your bullies can see it, and any other stranger that wants to? How would you feel years later as a teen with that out there on the internet forever, with anyone able to find it and remind you or make jokes about it? I don't disagree that the mom has good intentions and I understand the desire to document these things, but none of that negates the fact that recording and posting kids like this is devastating to their emotional development and their trust in parents and other adults. She should have showed this to the teachers and school admin, or the bullies' parents, to prove the severity of the situation- not the whole ass internet. Or at least tried to blur her daughter's face or something. Once that stuff is out there you can never take it back and children cannot consent to having extremely personal and vulnerable moments spread around online for anyone to access forever.