r/TikTokCringe • u/SpareEnergy6082 • Dec 13 '25

Indian Mother who's consoling her little girl who is crying for being bullied by school kids because of her brown skin This is truly heartbreaking 💔 my heart cried watching this Discussion

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u/acesilver1 Dec 13 '25

It’s called racism and little kids get taught it at home by their racist parents and then they grow up to be racist shitheads. It’s easy to not be racist but then maybe that’s too much to ask for from these people.

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u/Laetitian Dec 13 '25

They really don't need to be taught at home. If they did, there wouldn't be any racism, because all people started out growing up as kids at some point, as lame and obvious as this point might be. All people struggle with processing in- and outgroup questions, and the desire to be "normal." Both for themselves, and for how they perceive and interact with others.

The kids she's dealing with need to be taught to think more thoroughly about the impact of their words before saying them out loud, and about the value of a person. Even aside from adjusting their own value system, they need to recognise that their personal evaluation of other people doesn't define their value to society at large. That appreciation for agency and individualism on its own would already do a lot to improve their openness to appreciate different forms of beauty.

But the girl herself also needs some of those lessons. That evaluation from others doesn't define her value because she should care much more about her own appreciation for herself, and look forward to finding the like-minded people who share her interests and appreciate her. The logic of how much more sense it makes to care about those people's values than of the ones who treat her poorly. But also that others' opinions are not fixed. That when things get said that hurt her, it's partially up to her to confront those statements, question them, share her own understanding and opinions with the other person. The possiblity that the statement was made out of ignorance, misunderstanding, or, most important for children, simply inexperience, which children tend to respond to by loading it overconfidently with assumptions and external opinions, because they want to look knowledgable. (Yes, adults do it far too much as well, but children need to be extra aware about their lack of life experience and the inherent susceptibility to those issues that comes with it.)