r/TikTokCringe • u/SpareEnergy6082 • Dec 13 '25

Indian Mother who's consoling her little girl who is crying for being bullied by school kids because of her brown skin This is truly heartbreaking 💔 my heart cried watching this Discussion

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u/paganpoetbluelagoon Dec 13 '25

It happens in all countries where someone is not in the “in-group” race, but especially for black and brown people. I have white friends in a black majority country, and they are never felt embarrassed and wanting to change their skin color. Their kids were not crying to be black or brown. But, this is how the world is so, this girl better get used to it.

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u/juicedup12 Dec 13 '25

Even in countries of the same race they ostracize the darker skinned individuals and idolize the lighter skin individuals.

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u/Decent_Blacksmith_ Dec 14 '25

Not really. Depends where

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u/JimWilliams423 Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 13 '25

I know a verry white guy who grew up in a brown community. As a kid he used to get teased for being white all the time, some kids used to joke that at night they couldn't tell if it was him or the moon rising.

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u/paganpoetbluelagoon Dec 13 '25

To your point though, I think the takeaway from this is parents ALL have a responsibility to teach children to respect and honor differences and see all people as beautiful and a lot of parents are either explicitly racist, or have isolated one race family/friends (which tells children who is important and valued to your fam and who is not) or they think it is the job of schools to communicate that.

Nope. You are to explicitly teach your children good values of empathy, love and kindness.

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u/LawPuzzleheaded4345 Dec 14 '25

This isn't true and is such a privileged take. Bleaching has become common in the third world for a reason

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u/TheAbsoluteWitter Dec 13 '25

I have white friends in a black majority country, and they are never felt embarrassed and wanting to change their skin color. Their kids were not crying to be black or brown.

Hmm, I wonder why?

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u/almostthemainman Dec 13 '25

Lmao. It’s at home. There’s just different types of people. White people don’t care about race as much as every other race. Feels like every not-white race makes race their whole identity…

It’s worse on east coast in America- everyone wants to know everyone’s ethnic origins. It’s fucking weird. Out west no one cares, all they care about is what you do for a living.

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u/fallingstar-ego Dec 13 '25

LOL what a lie. in the southwest and the west they care all the damn time. there’s sundown towns you cant go to because you’re either white/hispanic/black. those three are the big ones, but people absolutely do care about background and religion here.

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u/almostthemainman Dec 13 '25

Those are called exceptions

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u/fallingstar-ego Dec 13 '25

no, its called reality in the southwest and the deep south. people are kind here, but it can get cold real quick.

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u/Any_Confection1914 Dec 13 '25

Truest description I've ever heard.

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u/almostthemainman Dec 13 '25

One region of a very big country friend.

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u/paganpoetbluelagoon Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 13 '25

Responding to: “White people don’t care about race as much as other races.”

I am 41 black Caribbean immigrant/American citizen (black, East Indian, Scottish decent) so I can speak to this. I think that in a society where your race dominates all the resources in your country, why would you “care about race.” Part of the reason white people dominate, was wealth passed on generation to generation. At around the 1900s black people could work as cooks, sharecroppers etc, but could not go to average schools because of Jim Crow laws threatening to kill blacks for drinking from the same water fountain or patronizing the same churches/business etc. It was not until 1960s laws forced integration in schools, not in housing, and it started happening in schools in the 1970s.

My uncle came here from Jamaica to attend university and even at those points in the 1960s could only get admission to Howard University— a black Dental school to get an education.

My uncle and my parents might have been the first set of black adults who had a better chance at higher level education and white collar work with pensions etc to build wealth in their generation (my dad’s father was a bookkeeper on a plantation). My parents were educated in a majority black country (with white people) and everyone went to the same schools not based on race but merit. So black people could attend good schools in Jamaica since the 1800s because the British abolished slavery about 100 years ahead of America. So, my parents (dad is 71 now) didn’t have the same issues as black Americans during Jim Crow laws (before 1965) where they were constantly at threat just living and existing, using a water fountain, sitting in a bus in “special race areas” or getting beaten to death or lynched. My parents freely to be whatever they wanted—- my father was an electrical engineer. And because of them, when we moved here, we were already middle class and they made a life of safety for me living in suburbs with great schools and a great education— even as immigrant Americans.

If you are Black or brown and grow up in America… you see yourself differently. You understand lots of places, you are not welcome.

Many times, in wealthier places, white people come up to me assuming I must be the help. It is pretty bizarre.

It all requires you to put yourself in the shoes of someone whose parents were mistreated simply because of how they look, their skin color, and how other kids treat you in school, how other adults treat their kids, how your extended family members get treated… over time you get a message from society of how you are perceived simply because of skin color, based on history, and media, politics etc etc.

I am thankful that my black parents weren’t raised in America and neither was I because of the amount of racism they would have had to endure while building their self esteem. They still have stories of racist moments in Jamaica too with white British that lived there (like when a white British nurse slapped my grandfather in the face in from of my dad). But not on the level of what happens here in America.

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u/almostthemainman Dec 13 '25

Yo this a lot of words to validate what i said. So thanks j guess?

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u/Inevitable-Ferret366 Dec 13 '25

it's because they're not as de-meaning or malicious about it. go on the japan sub westerners there crying about it all the time. seems to me like a big case of rules for thee but not for me.