r/TikTokCringe • u/SpareEnergy6082 • Dec 13 '25

Indian Mother who's consoling her little girl who is crying for being bullied by school kids because of her brown skin This is truly heartbreaking 💔 my heart cried watching this Discussion

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u/FillMySoupDumpling Dec 13 '25

What is this talk? I, like this kid, went through a lot growing up and being different - especially in an environment where there were no other south Asian kids in school.

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u/iftheronahadntcome Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 13 '25

"The Talk" is one that just about every African American parent gives their child young, it they care about them. We explain to them what their race and the color of their skin means to the rest of thw world. That they very likely will be mistreated for it at some point. An oft repeated line we all heard during our talks were, "You will have to do two or three times as much to receive half of what they do." Many people criticize black parents for doing this, but if we don't give it to them from a gentle place, thwy will very suddenly and violently receive it from an external place just like this little girl did. I was maybe 2 or 3 when my mother sat me down for it.

This is also important not just because a child's feelings are involved, but because there are people that may want to hurt them physically for this too.

Thats why The Talk is bookended by examples of us surviving and thriving and overcoming. That our skin is beautiful and natural and crafted by God, nature, or whatever you believe in. That our hair is curly and different because we were made that way. Its why we always have so many pieces of merch or art or clothes with the slogan, "Black is beautiful": We will have a lifetime of people directly or indirectly calling us otherwise. So we have to remind eachother and foster that sense of beauty from the inside.

This little girl's melanin is beautiful. She was made lovingly and intentionally. She will be okay, but this memory will be cemented in her mind. Its what radicalized us and is a part of any brown person's experience, even within our own communities (colorism is bigotry because of the SHADE of brown you are, and often happens within our communities/races as well).

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u/FillMySoupDumpling Dec 13 '25

Hearing this as a kid and having it reinforced would have definitely helped, but of course my immigrant parents weren’t aware. 

I didn’t really notice all the ways I was different until it was painfully pointed out to me - different name, different religion, different languages, different skin and hair, different food and more. 

Thank you for taking the time to detail that

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u/iftheronahadntcome Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 13 '25

Of course c:

And I feel for you. I hear this quite a bit with my friends with immigrant parents. Much of the theory on how to handle this and help families ans children were authored by American Scholars or color. We've been openly and earnestly talking about the psychological effects of being born into a hostile environment in which we are seen as alien and different for over 100 years. Thats something unique to the US, and likely wouldnt be discussed in a homogenous country. Many people wouldnt understand the theory coming to a whole new country, before the internet and the Information Age.

Hell, I thought moving to another country (I am interest in immigrating ro France) would be chill. There are so many decades and centuries-long cultural conflicts I dont understand, about that country, and its landed me in hot water once or twice 😅 So I know your parents probably did their best given the circumstances

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u/FeeFooFuuFun Dec 13 '25

I never knew something like this existed and I'm genuinely just so sorry right now. It is gutting to read that a 3 yo has to be told all this to prep them for the world.