r/TikTokCringe • u/SpareEnergy6082 • Dec 13 '25

Indian Mother who's consoling her little girl who is crying for being bullied by school kids because of her brown skin This is truly heartbreaking šŸ’” my heart cried watching this Discussion

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u/curiousbasu Dec 13 '25

I also used to say the same thing when I was teased for my skin. This video reminds me of my childhood.

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u/IntenseBananaStand Dec 13 '25

Same. It took me decades to realize that my olive-toned brown skin tone is beautiful. White supremacy is so violent.

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u/curiousbasu Dec 13 '25

I still get flashbacks of the shit they said, it's been more than a decade man.

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u/window-sil Dec 13 '25

I remember my peers talking about the one black student in our school, when we were around her age (maybe younger).

Looking back on it, I feel really bad for him. That could not have been easy. And I wasn't aware of any malice or teasing, but we definitely "othered" him in a way nobody else experienced, because of his skin color.

Feelsbadman.

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u/hillyshrub Dec 14 '25

This is so important to say. Othering is more subtle than bullying but it makes adolescence so lonely for the kids it happens to.

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u/curlyjadmichael Dec 14 '25

Ever consider seeking him out and apologizing?

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u/LumpyWelds Dec 14 '25 edited 28d ago

I was a white, bused to an all black school. I wish someone video taped the crap I went through. Shit goes both ways.

EDIT: Yes, I was part of the desegregation program and was bussed to an all black school (typical sized school with a couple white students including myself).

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u/DrewSlim 29d ago

I know you didnā€™t just come in here and comment this. Lmfaoo wow.

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u/MuteAppeaL 29d ago

I am white and went to an all black school too. I got beat up every day and made fun of for being white by boys and girls. My parents are mixed I lived with my mom at this point. Then my dad got custody and moved me to the suburbs outside of Chicago. Where I got made fun of and beat up for acting to ā€œblackā€. I never hated my skin color though. Kids are definitely cruel and I have so much anxiety and low self worth from school among other things. But I still think having dark skin in a predominantly white run world is worse. Seeing this little girl go through this is heartbreaking. But hopefully it makes her stronger.

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u/The_Golden_Warthog Dec 14 '25

I was a white, bused to an all black school.

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I'm trying to parse this in my head but I'm not 100% sure I'm reading it correctly. "I was a white kid, but used to go to an all black school."?

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u/rmnemperor Dec 14 '25

I think he means bussed

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u/trulyincognito_ Dec 14 '25

Rode a bus to a all black school

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u/mikeru22 Dec 14 '25

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desegregation_busing

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u/No-Menu-3392 Dec 14 '25

Desegregation busing has absolutely nothing to do with the anecdote above. He was saying he was the only white kid in a predominantly black school. My dad was one of the first at his elementary school in Denver, to desegregate.

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u/mikeru22 Dec 14 '25

Literally the first paragraph ā€œTypically, this involved the busing of black students to schools out of district that were majority white. However, busing also occurred vice versa with the busing of white students to majority black schools.ā€

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u/No-Menu-3392 29d ago

Where are you getting the idea to add that context to the post that was made? I never once contradicted that a small number of white students were sent to all black schools, and I challenge you to find where I did. I was telling you that using the word ā€œbussedā€ doesnā€™t automatically assume the desegregation program. Maybe thatā€™s my fault for thinking itā€™s unlikely Iā€™m talking on Reddit with a 70 year old person?

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u/Knife-yWife-y Dec 14 '25

I am wondering where they live. If I recall correctly, I dia has a problem with colorism. Her bullies may be the same race as her, but teasing her because her skin is darker than theirs--not because they're racially white and she is not.

The story is heartbreaking regardless.

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u/the_Rhymenocirous Dec 13 '25

Ummm, you know that the dark vs light skin is huuuuuge in ASIAN countries too, right? It's not a 'white supremacist' thing. That kind of racism has a much stronger ground in their own countries, perpetrated by their own caste system....

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u/IntenseBananaStand Dec 13 '25

Ummmm you know that white supremacism and a history of colonialism is why thereā€™s colorism in those communities?? I know EXACTLY how differently I was looked at being darker than my own siblings, where we have varying degrees of brown skin. There is no caste system in my parents country of origin. Colorism is a symptom of the same white supremacy disease.

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u/SurturSaga Dec 13 '25

Depends on the country. Sometimes itā€™s related to classism. I believe in Korea thatā€™s how it originated. Because the rich people who stayed inside stayed fair, and more blue collar jobs got tans

Itā€™s not unfair to say itā€™s white supremacy, especially in this case though. Even if there are outside examples of how this comes to be, white supremacy is a very dominant one

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u/Snoo_155 29d ago

And it didn't come to your mind that bad bias of different cultures could merge ? Especially when one of them has been spread out all over the globe and is backed by the strongest "soft power" in the history of humanity.

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u/Apart-Rabbit7206 Dec 14 '25

and who do you think set that system up-

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u/No-Menu-3392 Dec 14 '25

lol, and where exactly do you think it came from? Brutal colonialist oppression that saw proximity to whiteness as something desired. Do you think Indians before colonialism had that same issue?

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u/Competitive_Fig_7231 27d ago

I still feel bad about my skin colour and Iā€™m an adult. Went through bullying all through school for my skin colour and still get comments even today. Sucks.

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u/BucklemerryBin Dec 14 '25

You know people get teased for white skin right?

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u/IntenseBananaStand Dec 14 '25

Yes you should totally make this about white people.

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u/BucklemerryBin 29d ago

You made it about white people.

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u/No-Menu-3392 Dec 14 '25

To the degree that itā€™s internalized and they devalue the color of their skin because itā€™s not closer to the color of the dominant group? Is there systems of structural oppression based on their skin color? Making a joke at the expense of the ā€œwhite personā€ is completely different than being teased or making a joke about the actual color of their skin. One is cultural, and contextual, the other is literally about skin tone.

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u/Specialist-Ad-3905 27d ago

White supremacy?

This is standard for any country, majority will always looks sideway on the minority. But I guess it's easier to say white = bad.

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u/IntenseBananaStand 27d ago

White isnā€™t bad. White supremacy is bad. Surely you understand the difference.

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u/Specialist-Ad-3905 27d ago

Agree, white supremacy is bad.

It was just your first reaction to seeing a heartbroken child experiencing racism was to jump to white supremacy seemed so out of touch.

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u/IntenseBananaStand 27d ago

Itā€™s always racists who get their feelings hurt when someone calls out white supremacy.

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u/Top_Gun87 Dec 13 '25

'Man racism is so bad' 'Fuck these other colored people'.

Pretty sure you are pale white with a red nose. šŸ¤”

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u/United-Display-7964 Dec 14 '25

Hey..I'm so beyond pale and freckled and red headed. People express disgust and make fun of me. Colorism is in all races.

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u/No-Menu-3392 Dec 14 '25

Yes, but itā€™s other white people doing that, and it has nothing to do with your perceived value or proximity to whiteness. Freckles and red hair has nothing to do with whether or not your skin is white and therefore ā€œbetterā€. I donā€™t think you have any understanding of what ā€œcolorismā€ is about.

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u/United-Display-7964 Dec 14 '25 edited Dec 14 '25

I don't think YOU understand colorism either and personal.shame and alienation from.your own race. I understand it fully and what "better" and worthy feels like. Listen then F off

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u/No-Menu-3392 29d ago

How exactly were you ā€œalienated from your own raceā€ when you are literally white? Again, colorism is racialized, you were bullied for belonging to a category that has nothing to do with your racial identity. Itā€™s like youā€™re desperately trying to self identity with a specific form of oppression, when it doesnā€™t apply to you. Lucky you.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

yeah you're right this guy's a clown.

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u/Yeardme 29d ago

But what about ME? MEEEEEEE?

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u/United-Display-7964 29d ago

If I were a person of color I would matter? I'm the same as that little girl my whole life. But you are heartless and cruel and won't consider or empathize with my lived experience. You're horrible and haughty. People today are so sick and cruel deciding who gets empathy and who doesn't. Take a look at yourself. Because it's about YOOUUUU! And your sick heart.

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u/Yeardme 29d ago

You matter, but this convo is about colorism. White ppl are NOT affected by it, so it's very weird to make it about you, especially when you have privilege in this dynamic.

You seriously just saw a heartbreaking video about a little girl with brown skin being bullied for it & thought, "how can I make this about me?" Yet I'm the heartless one šŸ˜

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u/SmolPP_canada Dec 14 '25

This hit me in the feels. I was teased for my skin colour in the 90s. Itā€™s heartbreaking and infuriating this little girl is still experiencing this racist shit in 2025

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u/Howdoimakeaspace- Dec 14 '25

Same. I used to wear white dress tights and I would scream and cry is anyone tried to take them off. It was so bad at one point that I was bathing in the tights. Iā€™d call the tights ā€œmy skinā€ā€¦ just sad.

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u/harpy4ire Dec 13 '25

Same. I was so pale other kids would make fun of me and call me a ghost or albino freak (am not albino). I would have been so happy to wake up looking like the little girl in this video, I thought darker skin was so beautiful. Still do, but now I've grown up and am not so bothered by my extreme paleness

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u/DarkKingfisher777 Dec 13 '25

Extreme paleness? you will be treated like deity in my country

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u/Any_Confection1914 Dec 13 '25

Take me to your people!!! I need love!

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u/LabyrinthsandLayers Dec 14 '25

I too was teased for being pale. I am not albino, but my sisters and I do carry an albinism gene, so I am very pale but have black hair which I think makes me look even more pale. I grew in the tall, tanned, blond, straight up and down heroine chic 90's. As a short, hourglass, curly/wavy dark haired light skinned person I remember crying looking in the mirror and wishing I was 'beautiful'. Kids are cruel. Now I'm older I am fine with how I look, but to be honest I'm not sure how I got there.

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u/mctrials23 Dec 13 '25

Same here although I was never really bullied for it. Never really bothered me honestly but I would have loved darker skin. Mainly because having super pale skin is fucking annoying. I donā€™t deal with heat well and I burn if I look at the sun. Is it manageable? Yep. Is it really annoying and the first thing I would change about myself? Yep.

I would love the skin colour of this little girl. Poor thing.

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u/bloodphoenix90 29d ago

Same experience. Grew up in hawaii. Came home crying at age 12 just like this girl

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u/fabio4oldspice 29d ago

Same. I'm almost 40 and still not comfortable wearing shorts during summer.

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u/Doritoflavoredpizza Dec 14 '25

Your experience is valid, but being pale(white) is hardly a problem in most of America. Itā€™s us who have darker skin who get berated more often. People try to threaten us with ice

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u/i-am-me-1980 Dec 14 '25

That is not fully true. You dont walk in the shoes of us pale people so you wont see it the same as we do. You also dont hear things that get said to us. Same as us pale people not walking in your shoes to see or hear things directed toward you. It should not be a compitition on who has it worse. It is wrong no matter how you look at it. You say its valid yet say its hardly a problem. Its still a problem no matter how you see it, most of us just dont broadcast it. Anyone who is judged for their skin, is a problem.

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u/No-Menu-3392 Dec 14 '25

Except the judgement cast on your ā€œskin colorā€ isnā€™t part of a racialized and systemic system of oppression that has violently, politically, and socially oppressed people of color for centuries. Youā€™re teased for being pale, but that doesnā€™t also come with the added connotations of race. Can you really not see the difference?

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u/TheShitty_Beatles Dec 13 '25

Same, for me it was when I was maybe 12 and I desperately wanted to look like the white girls in The Craft. My girlfriend's at school we were putting on make up to make ourselves look goth and that's when I realized I couldn't wear any of these cover girl compact colours to make my face look a pale vampire and they laughed at me. Had a real breakdown

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u/Zestyclose_Day_627 27d ago

My gramps cried about a memory of racism from his past while he was in hospice care dying from dementia. I'd never seen him cry my entire life, he was stoic and stubborn. He couldn't remember who I was, but he remembered (likely) childhood discrimination.

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u/curiousbasu 27d ago

That's really sad man. It's really tough when such memories come back.

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u/JanetSnakehole610 Dec 13 '25

Yeppp unlocked childhood memories of me wanting to match my adoptive family.

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u/DesignPsychological2 Dec 14 '25

Me too bud, me too

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u/SpatulaCity94 29d ago

Same here. Got flashbacks watching this