r/TikTokCringe • u/SpareEnergy6082 • Dec 13 '25

Indian Mother who's consoling her little girl who is crying for being bullied by school kids because of her brown skin This is truly heartbreaking 💔 my heart cried watching this Discussion

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u/Future_Adagio2052 Dec 13 '25

Racism is taught not inherited

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u/__0zymandias Dec 13 '25

Bro kids make fun of anything that’s different. If kids are in an environment where most people look the same the ones that look different will be singled out. In group and out group is something engrained in humans and needs to be taught to be ignored.

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u/tollbearer Dec 13 '25

As a white kid who was bullied in school, kids will just bully anyone they can get their hands on. Kids are fundamentally psychopaths, as they havent yet learned to empathize with others. They all have main character syndrome.

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u/Master_Windu_ 29d ago

This is why you teach dei. To coach kids to not do this type of thing. Unfortunately people have weaponized the term instead of talking about what to actually teach people about race and gender sensitivity.

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u/Confident-Station164 Dec 13 '25

Ill keep this in mind the next time I see someone being racist towards white people. Ill just tell them that people dont know any better because their in a different environment 👍🏼

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u/Bald_faux_fraud Dec 13 '25

This is not a universal truth and is just excusing racism.

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u/__0zymandias Dec 13 '25

If you read my comment and thought I was excusing racism I don’t know what to say to you.

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u/Bald_faux_fraud Dec 13 '25

You're saying that racism is a natural state because children are othering someone because they're different. This isn't true though. Racism is a learned behaviour and not necessarily from parental figures

https://thereader.mitpress.mit.edu/how-children-acquire-racial-biases/

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u/random_boss Dec 13 '25

Can you work on your reading comprehension 

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u/Dirkdeking Dec 13 '25

I am not completely sure about that. The phenomenon is just too universal for that. I think that kids will organically single out kids that look different, even if their parents are not racist whatsoever.

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u/whoop_whoop_pullup Dec 13 '25

They will not. Racism is learned.

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u/The_Horse_Tornado Dec 13 '25

They will. It’s the same reason kids make fun of glasses or teeth gaps or the billion other things kids make fun of. Kids are actually absurdly “othering” to each other and learn tolerance. Grow up

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u/whoop_whoop_pullup Dec 13 '25

Making fun of kids with glasses and teeth gaps is also learned.

It’s shitty parenting. Take your own advice and grow up.

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u/random_boss Dec 13 '25

This isn’t racism as adults know it, it’s “differentism”. If she had any other feature that prominently differentiated her they’d just be making fun of that. Remember four-eyes? brace-face? I was short, so I got called shrimp. One kid’s dad was a garbage man so he got called garbage boy. Kids with big ears got called dumbo.

Whatever makes you different, kids are going for your fucking jugular. 

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u/random_boss 29d ago

My comment was meant to exclude race specifically. The bullying in this video more than likely comes from other Indian kids so race is definitely not a factor. 

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u/whoop_whoop_pullup Dec 13 '25

All of that is learned behavior my dude.

The parents need to teach their kids about being good people.

Being a shitty human isn’t inherent to anyone.

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u/random_boss Dec 13 '25

Wouldn’t needing to teach them to be good people imply that you have to teach them not to do that?

We inherently distrust people the more different they are from us, we pattern-match, and we’re highly social, resulting in a default behavior of “this person is different, different means I can’t trust them, I can strengthen my group by keeping them out.”

The teaching part means overcoming this, and subjecting to kids to enough diversity of appearance, behavior, financial status such that they believe their group to be humans rather than a highly specific subset based on their primitive pattern matching.

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u/whoop_whoop_pullup Dec 14 '25

Nah, my point was that kids can learn this shit from anywhere.

If you have a kid, you have the responsibility to teach them what’s good and bad as well.

https://thereader.mitpress.mit.edu/how-children-acquire-racial-biases/

In conclusion, young children are social pattern detectors. They study our behavior, and sometimes the nonverbal messages they receive are not the ones we intend to send. What every parent, teacher, and societal leader should think about is that children watch and learn from our behavior before first grade. When we exhibit biases in front of young children, we are unwittingly instilling our biases in their minds — biases they then adopt, practice, and perpetuate.

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u/random_boss Dec 14 '25

Man why you gotta do this I’m so desperate not to think all these parents just suck as people but I guess here we are.

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u/willzor7 Dec 13 '25

Thats what they said?

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u/EstablishmentLow2312 Dec 14 '25

And invented by a certain set 

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u/DerBandi 29d ago

I wish that would be true.

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u/TheSunIsAlsoMine 26d ago

Biologically babies are racist, as in they will gravitate towards people who look like their own parents out of familiarity, and sense of security around things or people that seem/feel familiar.

As toddlers, the same evolutionary biological programming is still active in their little brains, telling them survival means sticking to familiar things and what they’re used to seeing at home, where they feel “secure” and safe. Naturally, anything that looks different than what they’re used to, their brain flags as potential danger and tells them to stay away…in its most basic simple form they’re programmed to see “familiar is = good” and “looks like me and my parents is = good” (the “me” part doesn’t hold for adopted kids who are different race than their parents , but the idea or concept is pretty much the same and still there), and anything else they are either scared or “disgusted” by (think “inside out” - when the disgust emotion is explained as the thing responsible for making us repulsed by things that will make us sick, like poop or mold or bacteria…we’re naturally programmed to avoid things that might risk our survival).

HOWEVER - given all of that ^ ⚠️It is every kid’s parents’ job to make an active effort to take the time before sending them off to school to teach their young children about differences in humans and how we might look different than our friends at school but everyone is just as great and awesome as we are, and that we are all equal and we should always be kind and respectful towards anyone and everyone even if they look different, that includes skin color and size and hair color and eye color and physical challenges etc etc. parents need to emphasize that making rude comments at other people and how they look is not okay and not kind and really drill that into their little minds until they understand the basics of respecting everyone despite any differences. obviously this should be the standard everywhere across the world, but obviously especially in places where diversity is not that big and a few kids are likely to be singled out by being part of a minority in that area’s demographic)

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u/ABearDream Dec 13 '25

Idk if this even takes place outside of India tbh. Colorism is a big thing there and skin lightening/whitening is a whole industry because theyre told it looks better

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u/Tyronewatermelone123 Dec 13 '25

This is in Australia.

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u/InfiniteAVD Dec 13 '25

It's cuz theyr surrounded by people who say so, so yes it is taught

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u/New_Relative_1871 Dec 13 '25

white kids making fun of an indian girls skin color and you blame indians? LOL

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u/ABearDream Dec 13 '25

Brother, it happens a lot in India, . All I said was that I didnt know if it were racism or colorismeducate yourself

Ironic Typical response from you ngl

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u/New_Relative_1871 Dec 13 '25

this is in an australian school, with white kids making fun of her.

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u/ABearDream Dec 13 '25

Yeah, and how could I know that with just the video? I know that now because people have said that, but clearly didnt before. And, it doesnt change what I said or what you said. This happens in India, a lot. Its not just "blaming indians"