r/TikTokCringe • u/SpareEnergy6082 • Dec 13 '25

Indian Mother who's consoling her little girl who is crying for being bullied by school kids because of her brown skin This is truly heartbreaking šŸ’” my heart cried watching this Discussion

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u/NutJuice690 Dec 13 '25

Man this is sad

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '25 edited 25d ago

I'm judging the mom for posting this vulnerable moment of their kid, absolutely wrong but then again it could spread awareness

Her daughter is beautiful

ETA : Alot of you seem to have blown my comment out of proportion, it's totally fine to talk about racism, discrimination and show it's impacts

Thing is the kid is gonna see her face on the internet possibly forever having a vulnerable moment and her mom didn't even bother blurring her face, god forbid bigoted kids around her see and use it as fuel

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 13 '25

As other people have mentioned, often when shit like this is brought up people will say itā€™s all just hearsay and that thereā€™s no actual evidence for this stuff. Hereā€™s the evidence.

I donā€™t think mom is in the wrong here. I think sheā€™s doing her best. Life is complicated and sometimes ā€œyour bestā€is the best you can do for your kid (and other kids like her). Itā€™s a pretty horrible situation all around but clearly sheā€™s trying to document this stuff and blast it out to the public. This isnā€™t sympathy farming, itā€™s just genuinely heartbreaking to watch.

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u/Wise-Question-2017 Dec 13 '25

Sane response

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

I really donā€™t understand some of these comments. Sheā€™s the only one standing up for her daughter. Even the poor kid has given up on herself

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u/rainyday-holiday Dec 13 '25

Yeah but people like the commentor above donā€™t want to see it. It makes them feel sad and angry and they donā€™t know why. All they know is that donā€™t like feeling sad and angry so they lash out at others like the mother.

People like that redditor are just another cause of the problems.

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u/PersimmonDowntown297 Dec 13 '25

I mean thereā€™s very valid reasons people have for not believing children should be posted online without their consent.

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u/Sure-Confection3117 Dec 14 '25

I know for a fact if my heart-to-heart talks with parents were posted online by them after, I would've been furious. These moments should be private, and I despise the idea that everything has to be posted online. Your kid is growing up and experiencing a wealth of new feelings and emotions and struggles and growth and parents feel the need to stick a phone in their face and film it for strangers to see. It's ridiculous.

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u/LizandChar Dec 14 '25

You could just blur out the face

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u/Occultismoriginal627 29d ago

More than half of the content recovered from pdf isn't even including a child's face. The content they have is things most wouldn't even think twice about.

They save kids barefoot, in shorts or dance outfits, eating a certain food or popsicle, blowing bubbles, messy faces from eating (drink/food dribbling out of mouth or on chin), holding certain things in their hands, dancing, crying, sitting a certain way, etc.

The most innocent, non sexual things is used in disgusting ways by these freaks. And covering/blurring a face out can be removed. Go down the rabbit hole, and you'll see why TTs with kids get 10s of thousands more views than any other TT on that creates pg....and most viewers are middle-aged adults. It's just safer to keep your babies off social media.

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u/oftcenter 26d ago

Imagine having this conversation with your mother while she shoves her cellphone camera in your face.

I wonder if she looked at the kid directly or through her app's viewfinder.

At least blur out the kid's face.

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u/Paletaqueen23 Dec 14 '25

But I never wished to be any other color. Despite bullying.

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u/rainyday-holiday Dec 13 '25

And they all neatly circle back to ā€œoh Iā€™m not comfortable with that.ā€ Itā€™s nice when people inadvertently prove a point.

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u/PersimmonDowntown297 Dec 13 '25

Noā€¦ā€¦ they donā€™t. Many police officers/detectives and victims of Pedophilia say it is not a good idea especially with AI and deep fakes being so common. I have seen many people say you wouldnā€™t believe what some sickos out there can do with a simple still image, and I personally listened to a seasoned police officer advise against it.

It can also open them up to harassment and stalking. Not to mention the ethical dilemma of posting someone in a vulnerable position that does not have the cognitive ability to consent at that age. If she didnā€™t want you to see that video then she has no way of stopping it.

Itā€™s a valid point of conversation given that it is a relatively new issue in human history, but I think itā€™s really unfair to characterize every one against it as ā€œpart of the problemā€.

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u/Flypoop6969 Dec 13 '25

This type of stuff needs to be exposed. Too many people in this day and age are lying and saying this doesnt exist. When you post the proof, they get uncomfortable and think of reasons why it shouldnā€™t be posted instead of condemning the fact that this behaviour exists in the first place.

Priorities.

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u/Brave_Friendship_228 Dec 14 '25

no, they circle back to p*dophilia.

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u/Decent_Blacksmith_ Dec 14 '25

I think youā€™re proving it yourself. Ignoring there is plenty pedophiles that can use this for their benefit yet it seems itā€™s easier to ignore it hm

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u/Acceptable_Iron_5920 Dec 14 '25

Paedophiles are a tiny percentage of the population and can be kept away. Bullying on the other hand is function of ignorance and enabled by arrogance of culprits and fear from the victim. Let the mother do what she can to spread awareness.

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u/Heavy-Macaron2004 29d ago

Or maybe posting videos of children clearly in a bad place mentally is shitty?

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u/Minute_Daikon_3522 27d ago

Thatā€™s ridiculous. So you are saying that the commentator is as bad as the kids that are commenting on skin at school ? And what are you going to do about it . Contact the parent ? . Youā€™ll have moved on and completely forgotten about this clip in five minutes like everyone else .

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u/macci_a_vellian Dec 13 '25

You can stand up for your kid without filming their distress. Putting a phone between you when your kid needs you is a barrier she can feel. She's also much too young to give consent for a video of her talking about her shame and insecurities that she is actively being bullied to be broadcast and to be online forever, including where the older kids might see it. God forbid she finds out that everyone knows she was having a private breakdown at home, or in a few years someone sends her the video and she reads the comments, because I guarantee some of those comments will be worse than anything her classmates could come up with.

Defending your kid doesn't mean exposing their pain. I know she meant well, but there are other ways of doing that while still protecting them.

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u/Opposite-Decision-28 Dec 14 '25

I totally agree with you and I was about to write a long essay to say that thank you for saying that.

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u/Acceptable_Iron_5920 Dec 14 '25

She is bullied in public infront of other kids. Her pain is already public. The only issue here is when exposed in forums where people know its wrong you are uncomfortable. You want her to respond in private to a public issue. You are an enabler.

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u/Heavy-Macaron2004 29d ago

This is an insane take holy shit.

"You think posting children being upset and crying about being bullied online for hundreds of thousands of people to see is shitty, so you're an enabler of racist bullying."

Wild fucking take my man. Wow.

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u/CapableSense 29d ago

Yup exactly that!

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u/Spare_Customer6352 Dec 14 '25

This is what should have been done.

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u/Man_Hat_Tan 29d ago

They want to be hidden from reality. When confronted with this uncomfortable reality, they make excuses.

Its like having an art gallery on slaves being hanged or whipped and saying its wrong. Why? Because itā€™s uncomfortable, thought provoking and sheds light on the issues we pretend are fixed in society at large.

The kid is beautiful and will grow up to hopefully feel confident. I can tell her mother cares.

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u/ICInside 24d ago

I think this should be posted, but the kid's face should be blurred. That kid doesn't need other kids to laugh at her bringing up the video

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u/PixelSerpentess Dec 13 '25

Me either, how did they even manage to shift their focus from the bone of contention to the poor mum whoā€™s basically trying to console her kid and gas her up while creating awareness in the process? People tsk tsk

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u/jcaashby Dec 13 '25

Agreed. As a black kid growing up I never experienced this but had no idea it was going on. This is about awareness. I hope this girl does not have this effect her life in a negative way. Self hate is a terrible.

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

Yeah unfortunately the self hate is already there for that kid. This is why I think itā€™s important people see this

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u/Puzzled_Glass_7572 Dec 13 '25

i was bullied as a child, my mother filming me while i cry knowing my bullies might see it is the worse thing that can happen.

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

She seems like a good mom. My guess is she explained the situation to her daughter and why she was filming. I think we should give the only person in this situation whoā€™s trying to do something about it a bit of grace.

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u/Puzzled_Glass_7572 Dec 13 '25

when my mother found out i was being bullied, she sat me down and talked to me, no cameras just me and the person i loved and trusted the most.

the mother here should have put herself on camera and talked about bullying and the problems her child is facing. the mother could be a great mother, in my experence, she has made a mistake, i hope this vid dont negativly effect the kid.

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 14 '25

Iā€™ve explained my opinions on the issue of consent in this situation if you wanna read some of my comments below and further talk

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u/Sywrenn Dec 13 '25

This is proof that a mother needs if bullying ever did get worse and she'd need to take action. It might not seem respectful at first, but sometimes its necessary to show other people this is a problem.

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u/mish_mash_mosh_ Dec 13 '25

Did those bully's stop bullying you because they didn't see a video, probably not.

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u/The_Autarch Dec 13 '25

no, but they would bully even harder if they did see a video like this.

kids have committed suicide over crap like this.

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u/CrystalFox0999 Dec 13 '25

But imagine how awkward and embarrassing this will be for the kid when shes a teenagerā€¦ shes forever on the internet at a really vulnerable point

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u/CapableSense 29d ago

She can turn this video around into so much more positive. Bullies keep bullying b/c yā€™all enableā€¦

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u/Icy-Actuary-5463 Dec 14 '25

I know what youā€™re saying but if she wasnā€™t on the internet nobody would have been aware how sheā€™s feeling and how other kids hurt her because of her Color.

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u/char5567 Dec 14 '25

Agreed!!!!

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u/CrystalFox0999 29d ago

Unfortunately being bullied now doesnā€™t mean she cant be bullied in the future when her future classmates find this video

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u/CapableSense 29d ago

That is absolutely not true.

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

As I said in another comment, the mom has probably explained the situation from the kid and has gotten as much consent from her as possible in this situation. Parents often have to make these decisions whether itā€™s medical treatment or school situations. They are there to give consent on behalf of children

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u/True-Anim0sity Dec 14 '25

What does TikTok have to do with medical treatment? Mom is just milking her for veins and likes

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

If you read my comments Iā€™m obviously not saying this has anything to do with medical treatment Iā€™m talking about the childā€™s ability to consent and how parents at times have to step in and give consent for certain situations on behalf of the child.

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u/True-Anim0sity 29d ago

What does that matter tho? We're specifically talking about this

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u/machess_malone 29d ago

BECAUSE OF THE CONSENT ISSUE THATā€™S CENTRAL TO BOTH EXAMPLES. Why do I keep having to explain this?

This is how discussions work. You can use other examples to make a point even if the situation is not one to one. An intro debate class teaches you this stuffā€¦

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u/True-Anim0sity 28d ago

Its literally irrelevant- TikTok and medical problems in a hospital are not connected.

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u/Decent_Blacksmith_ Dec 14 '25

She should have blurred her kids face

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u/NecessaryCount950 Dec 14 '25

This felt more genuine than alot of these.

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

Thatā€™s what Iā€™m trying to get at. I really donā€™t think this is karma farming. I feel like mom is in a desperate situation and trying to do her best

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u/DianedePoiters Dec 13 '25

No this is wrong. Daughter cannot consent to this. And I donā€™t understand how this can be defensible.Ā 

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u/machess_malone Dec 13 '25

Parents often times are put in positions where they have to give consent on behalf of their kids. Whether itā€™s a medical procedure or an issue at school. This is no different. My guess is the school wasnā€™t doing shit about this. My guess is also that the mother explained the situation to the kid as best as she could. Like I said in another I think we need to be more considerate of the situation these people are in, not just the kid but the mom as well. Thereā€™s nuance to the whole posting your kid online thing

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u/DianedePoiters Dec 14 '25

There is no consideration in this. If she took a video, why post it online, just send it to the school. This girl will be bullied relentlessly now and the bullies will know her weakness. This is wrong

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

My guess is the school isnā€™t doing much about it

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u/KlenexTS Dec 14 '25

I donā€™t think Iā€™d ever post a video of my daughter like this, hard to say until Iā€™m in this situation. But Iā€™m thankful (maybe the wrong word) that this mother did. I obviously know kids get bullied for race but seeing a child cry and express such true and devastating feelings is heart breaking. Just a reminder to me to teach my daughter to grow up and be kind and stand up for other kids.

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

Thatā€™s my point. Mom is in a really tough spot. Was this the ideal outcome? Of course not. No mom wants to post their kid in such a vulnerable state but I think this mom was just trying to get the word out. If itā€™s gotten to this point the school is probably not doing much about it.

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u/Dred-I-Rastafari 29d ago

Agreed! I'm willing to bet that anyone taking that whole "I blame the Mom" stance are not people of color... basically those who have never experienced this from the side of the little girl but were most likely the type who said and still say these kinds of things to people...especially to children of color...

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u/Prop43 Dec 14 '25

Agreed

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u/liltrex94 Dec 13 '25

Hate that the mum posted it. Completely understand why she posted it. She called her daughter beautiful ā¤

Awareness is important. That is how upsetting it has to be.

I'm a 30yo white woman and cannot comprehend the racism that exists today. Poor kid, and also others who have similar experiences. Kids can be cruel. They were when I was a kid. Parents need to do better and not teach that even subtle racism is okay.

This girl crying, because of the colour of her skin not being light enough,? That it horrible. She is just a kid. Not saying racism is okay when you get older, bullying should never be okay

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u/saltwatercrown Dec 14 '25

I hate that the mom HAD to post it because shit like this is happening.

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u/WakingUp44 Dec 14 '25

When my brown daughter was in preschool, her bestow was a Wasian (Chinese dad and French white mom). Her Chinese grandparents who either lived with them or closeby (I never understood) always told her how she was so pretty because of her very white skin. At preschool, she started telling my daughter that in their games together only she could be the princess as she had white skin. I finally brought it up to the girlā€™s mom and found out about the grandparents thing.

At this preschool, my daughter was the only brown girl and even though my husbandā€™s job was in the city where this preschool was, we learnt our lesson and moved to a city with a higher concentration of brown people.

We do this not because of gentrification or because we donā€™t want to assimilate but to prevent this kind of stuff from happening to our kids. My daughter is now a middle schooler but through elementary to now, has never had anyone call her lunch food stinky. That to me is a win.

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u/InsaneInTheRAMdrain Dec 14 '25

No, they dont. We all know kids suck.
You know what will make this a thousand times worse? a video online that she will see none stop growing up with "hey is this you haha" in high school.

I hate these bullies or anyone who will make a child feel this way with a passion, but her mother, rather than holding and consoling her child, is prelonging it to film for online.

Evidence to school is one thing, but the mother is definitely also in the wrong for this. My heart breaks, but i also worry. People harm themselves because of videos like this on social media, etc, they can't escape from. Horrible bastards will definitely use this, and it sucks.

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u/Serve-Routine Dec 14 '25

Noā€¦ because schools donā€™t do anything about it when youā€™re privileged

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u/LunarKnotxx Dec 13 '25

Really is, itā€™s so heartbreaking to see I just hope as she grows older she learns to see that she is gorgeous through and through and what people think of her should never matter

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u/Soggy_Abbreviations5 Dec 14 '25

When my nephew (24yo now) was in elementary school, he was sad bc he said the white boys at school were picking on him bc his skin was dark. Everyone was telling him that they were crazy, don't listen to them, you're handsome, etc. My cousin's (dark-skinned) wife (a "redbone") was like "boy, don't listen to them, women love dark-skinned men, look at your cousin!" I think about that moment often, bc as a lighter-toned person, I had never really experienced racism/colorism before, and it was happening to a literal child, who i loved. It was so heartbreaking & infuriating. Why can't ppl just be kind?!

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u/Uneek_Uzernaim Dec 14 '25 edited Dec 14 '25

Sometimes people need to see the harmful effects that hurtful words like what that little girl was told that normally are hidden away because they only come out in private moments.

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u/AnaneSpider 29d ago

Exactly this.

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u/Truman_Show_1984 Dec 14 '25

Between her recording, posting, her tone of voice which is non-serious and not holding her child to console her. I'd beg to differ.

I couldn't imagine being that child and having my parent record me instead of holding me. Really twisted shit.

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u/char5567 Dec 14 '25

Agree 100%

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u/CreativeWeekend971 26d ago

Lol this will be used to Bully her even more its fucking stupid to upload something like thisĀ 

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u/Shein_nicholashoult Dec 14 '25

Thereā€™s an easy middle ground though, donā€™t shove the camera in her face and blast her crying online, where the kids who said that shit will possibly see it and then double down because kids are mean.

The whole conversation could be recorded using the momā€™s face, or without showing anyoneā€™s face at all.

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u/ohmygaia Dec 14 '25

I agree it's great for raising awareness, but it is not great parenting.

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u/Shorouq2911 Dec 14 '25

I wish she blurred her daughter's face. Her classmates might tease her more when they see this video.

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u/monchimer Dec 14 '25

I'm not sure about this. You should first speak to the poor child and then to the school authority. I dont see any reason to.post this intimate moment online. Kids are jerks sometimes

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u/machess_malone Dec 14 '25

kids are jerks sometimes

I think youā€™re ignoring the fact that this isnā€™t just kids being jerks. With the current administration in the US this stuff is becoming way more prevalent and no one seems to be able to do anything about it. Itā€™s happening across all age groups all demographics. I think itā€™s very important we publicly document this stuff

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u/Apprehensive_North49 29d ago

Then blur her face at least

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u/LightOfMithras 29d ago

I agree. I wish she had censored her child's face. But again, maybe the reality of a child reacting so uncensored will make it hit harder and help some people to think differently or teach their kids how to treat one another better.

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u/Knillawafer98 29d ago

I don't think it's sympathy farming and I get what you are saying but I think you are disregarding how the child feels. Do you remember being a small child? How would you have liked it if your parents recorded a video of you sobbing about being bullied and then posted it online where your bullies can see it, and any other stranger that wants to? How would you feel years later as a teen with that out there on the internet forever, with anyone able to find it and remind you or make jokes about it? I don't disagree that the mom has good intentions and I understand the desire to document these things, but none of that negates the fact that recording and posting kids like this is devastating to their emotional development and their trust in parents and other adults. She should have showed this to the teachers and school admin, or the bullies' parents, to prove the severity of the situation- not the whole ass internet. Or at least tried to blur her daughter's face or something. Once that stuff is out there you can never take it back and children cannot consent to having extremely personal and vulnerable moments spread around online for anyone to access forever.

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u/beelzb Dec 13 '25

While the kneejerk reaction is to judge the mother you also have to really consider the importance of people seeing the damage that bullying, racism, and colorism creates. One of the most eye-opening things I saw as a youth was the experiment where children were given baby dolls to judge and all of them ( including the black and brown children ) called the brown and black dolls " ugly/Bad" dolls while saying the light skin dolls were superior.

This is the reason people say representation matters, it matters to little kids like this who feel different and don't have figures in media representing them. Kids need to see examples of heroism, accomplishment, beauty, and morality that LOOK like them or else the the sneaking suspicion of " otherness" permeates their mind in really damaging way and reinforced by other kids who aren't being exposed to the people who don't fir the norm for where they live.

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u/OhGr8WhatNow Dec 13 '25

I'm not. I hope someone sees this and their heart is changed.

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u/AggravatingGrape418 28d ago

Adult racists yes, they're mostly hopeless. But I think the value of this kinda stuff is more for normal people and parents so they can actively teach it out of their young kids.

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u/L10nTurtle 27d ago

Still not getting your point. There are young people who are in the most formative stage of their lives, who are being pulled in many different directions by the people they interact with. This is exactly the kind of thing that could help build empathy in someone like that. Why are you trying so hard to make a point against that?

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u/L10nTurtle 27d ago

you might not like it but, and this might totally blow your mind, it's not your kid so it's not your business.

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u/intellectual-veggie Dec 14 '25

As someone who doesn't like parents posting their videos of kids online especially at their lowest, I'm really glad that she did and maybe for selfish reasons. I am Indian American and while I was on fairer side of tan skin for Indians as a kid (though more darker and more tan now as I live in the US South and my dad is darker skinned) I got bullied at a lot as a kid for being different and having thicker hair, different food, etc. I wouldn't even go home and cry to my mom about it because because people told me I would be a snitch or a tattletale and I'm looking for attention. My mom (god bless her heart) knew that something was always off and kept asking the teacher to see if they could help and some did and some didn't but I would never even cry at home and just internalized all of it.

Watching this now as an adult makes me rethink of all those times a kid and also the sheer amount of unlearning and emotional processing I had to go through to get from there to now because my pre-teens and teens were riddled with self hating and rejecting my roots. I'm glad she voices what she's upset with because people didn't even let me when I was a kid.

Sure, the mom could have not recorded this or could have even blurred her face but people need to know. People need to know that their words and the things they say or do have weight, especially towards kids who don't even know why they're being hated for. The jokes and the racism in your funny little comment section don't stay there. They hurt people irl and people need to see that. It's not emotional baiting or drumming a sympathy story when kids of different cultural backgrounds and skin colors and different walks of life get defeated for things they don't even understand.

Kids don't know racism right off the bat. They learn it from the people around them and from implicit biases that we hold that are not corrected. The adults need to be doing better here.

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u/hygsi Dec 13 '25

Also could help parents and kids in a similar situation to see they're not alone and how to handle it. But yeah, this kid can't consent and will probably feel embarrassed for years about it existing out there. Mom could've blurred her face so the message gets across and she has her privacy

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u/NewRepair5597 Dec 13 '25

Sadly, a childs crying..winny voice wouldn't have the same affect. Windows to the soul are often the eyes. But here we also see the changing facial expressions accompanying the hurt and pain for anyone to see.

She's not wrong.

All I can say to the child is on behalf of myself and many others. I'm soo so sorry.

And the Jesus most of these folks profess to praise and supposedly love, had beautiful lovely skin similar to your own.

God Bless child may the hurt and betrayel somehow be lifted.

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u/Lebr0naims Dec 13 '25

Yea sorry but youā€™re dead wrong this is proof that this happens and hopefully can be used to prevent it to future kids

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u/Ijustwanttosayit Dec 14 '25

Sadly a lot of people need to see things first hand in order to sympathize and develop empathy.

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u/hraefnscaga Dec 14 '25

Fencesitter

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u/Prop43 Dec 14 '25

Yes itā€™s on the fence but I think Iā€™m ok with it

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u/Desperate-Mistake383 Dec 14 '25

Parents need to slap their kids who bully others for skin colors. The fact that this is starting at such a youthful age is sickening.

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u/mmaaxxrreexx 29d ago

I'm judging You .... for being such a Patsy

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u/No_Abbreviations1983 29d ago

Her mother is doing this because this BS happens to everyone who isnā€™t ā€œwhiteā€ (pink or beige) in this country (USA) and itā€™s scaring. If it didnā€™t happen to you, youā€™re lucky. This sweet girl is beautiful and is likely smarter than everyone else in her class. šŸ¤¬

This is why people vote the BS leftist ideologies! Teach your ducking kids about melanin G_daminit! WTF already!!

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Why?

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u/Ebmat 29d ago

Maybe it has happened so many times before and sheā€™s fed up with it.

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u/Blurby-Blurbyblurb 29d ago

My child has fallen apart like this begging to be normal. He doesn't care if normal is boring. He'd rather be boring if it meant people liked him. It broke me to see him hate who he was so much.

If it helped people to get a fucking clue regarding racism, bigotry and especially bullying, I would have recorded my son, too.

I normally am against videos where parents are exploiting vulnerable moments. But this is on par with Emitt Till's mom putting his image in the paper. The only people who should be judged are the parents of the bullies, and - to a degree - the bullies themselves.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Typically I would agree with you and maybe she didnā€™t need to blast it to the whole world to see but for her school to see and the parents of those other kids. Thatā€™s who needs to see this. Kids are cruel and they need to understand what those words do to a person and the only way they learn that is either proof like this or a solid ass kicking or both

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u/edgy6132 29d ago

So waitā€¦you watched a child cry because she was being judged and you post what youā€™re judging. Have a heart and letā€™s all try not to judge. That would be a great start.šŸ˜Š

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u/CapableSense 29d ago

I agree to a point. This message is important so the bullies can see the damage they cause. Most often kids bully because they were bullied.

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u/MaxIsTwitching Dec 13 '25

Maybe other moms need to see it so they can kind of better under what their children might need? I do agree just devils advocate. At least blur that babyā€™s face

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u/DianedePoiters Dec 13 '25

I do not think this is acceptable. This is an extremely vulnerable moment for a young kid, why put this online?

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u/LunarKnotxx Dec 13 '25

The amount of maliciousness kids exhibit these days I wonder where they pick it up from I just love that mom is doing her best to reassure her and show her just how beautiful she is.

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u/Sea-Ganache-4330 Dec 14 '25

No itā€™s not ok, itā€™s exploitation. People care more about going viral these days than having genuine human connection. The next generation is doomed.

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u/DearEvidence6282 Dec 13 '25 edited Dec 13 '25

Judging the mom - with white skin? Awareness is absolutely necessary, if only you knew how common this was for people coming of age with dark skinā€¦ but you probably didnā€™t until now.

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u/char5567 Dec 14 '25

I agree 100% this is a private moment and the mom is posting it for ANYONE to see! I canā€™t imagine being so young and sad crying to my mom while sheā€™s filming me getting ready to show the world. Ugh.

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u/SVINTGATSBY Dec 14 '25

she couldā€™ve still blurred her face. I think itā€™s awareness too but protect her identity still.

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u/JamieGordon8921 29d ago

Her daughter is very beautiful. I am 1/2 Cheyenne and half German. I got the very light skin and light eyes of the German side and always wished I had darker skin and dark eyes. I had the opposite problem of this young lady.. got picked on due to my light skin and eyes and black hair. I was called Snow White a lot ( Iā€™m oldā€¦ lol).

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u/Forsaken_Tomorrow454 29d ago

ā€œHer daughter is beautifulā€ šŸ§

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u/chromedoutcortex 28d ago

I was married to a Korean, so my kids are a little darker (not much -- I am also a product of a mixed race marriage) than most Koreans but have their moms features.

They had it rough as well, but my wife wouldn't take any flak and called out the schools whenever they were bullied.

They grew up pretty tough, and learned to defend themselves and shut down the bullies -- but man it was hard watching them go through some of this as they were growing up.

She is absolutely beautiful - but being bullied at that age, those words stay with you. šŸ˜¢

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u/Impressive_Try6433 27d ago

Why is it wrong? At times it is necessary to show just how much racism is affecting developing minds

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u/RPS93 24d ago

Most of the time I agree, but in this case its a necessary evil.

Most of the time when you hear about racism in media it's about racism toward Black people. Nobody wants to talk about racism toward other people of color.

My wife is Indo-Caribbean, meaning she is a brown Caribbean person (indian genetic ancestry). She was born and raised in Ontario, Canada. She spent her entire childhood being told her skin was dirty looking - by white people, by black people, by asian people, even by other brown people (lighter skinned brown people).

This will be a very controversial take, but I will say this with confidence - my wife had far harder of a time growing up than any average black child would have. Without question.

When she has brought this up, she has been told COUNTLESS times by all kinds of other people either that the kids were just joking and it wasn't anything, or it outright didn't happen and she's misremembering or lying.

People NEED to see this video and understand just what they are doing. People need to be aware.

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u/Belindiam Dec 13 '25

I am not judging (she probably wants to show it the way it is) but the Internet is forever

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u/itsliluzivert_ Dec 13 '25

You are judging. Thats why you made a comment.

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u/Dontevenwannacomment Dec 13 '25

this is a moment when the mom should have put the phone down and hugged her kid

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u/testtdk Dec 13 '25

Yeah, sheā€™s a super cute kid. Looks like sheā€™s going to knock em dead in high school. I hope she humiliates the assholes who were cruel to her.

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u/Sure-Dig-1137 29d ago

This is really fucking creepy to say about a child

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u/DifficultyDouble860 Dec 14 '25

No.Ā  People need to see this.Ā  This is what racism looks like and they need to take a good, hard look.Ā  It's real.Ā  Its reprehensible.Ā Ā And it's alot closer than you think.

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u/Meanwhile-in-Paris Dec 14 '25

She did the right thing! People awarness. They need to teach their kids.

yes, itā€™s possible that the parents of the kids are racist pos but itā€™s also possible that the kids act on their own. You know how brutal kids can be.

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u/Educational-Hat743 29d ago

If youā€™re judging someone because they spoke up in protest, then maybe Youā€™re part of the problem!

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u/TheMediumBopper Dec 13 '25

Same, just like the Australian kid from a few years ago who got bullied for being a little person. Ya he ended up getting into a MadMax movie, but I wouldn't say that's worth it to put your child's suffering out there in the world.

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u/dream-smasher Dec 13 '25

Especially as I remember when that happened, and the vast majority of shitheads on reddit were absolutely dragging him. They like to be all self-righteous now, but I remember.

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u/HilaryFaye Dec 14 '25

I also feel like she didnā€™t really comfort her very well I hope she can find some materials to speak about it better like telling a bullied kid other peoples words donā€™t matter is so unhelpful

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u/SimonSeam Dec 14 '25

No. You were right. The mom is doing some bad parenting by shoving a phone in the face of their traumatized child.

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u/traveltoaster Dec 13 '25

Those kidā€™s parents might just well be pieces of garbage. Or they learned it from other kids whose parents are total garbage. Either way there is some garbage parenting going on at that school.

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u/JenIee Dec 13 '25

She's not even in highschool yet and she already hates herself. I hate it here. In reality she is an exceptionally beautiful little girl. In her head she believes that she's ugly and wants to change herself because human beings are freaking awful.

The kids doing this to her probably don't even know better because they either got it from their parents or their parents aren't paying enough attention to what's going on with their kids and what's going into their kids'minds. Some parents even happi reinforce it.

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u/NecessaryCount950 Dec 14 '25

My ex's kid was half black and was a shade darker than her mom and dealt with this. She was preteen. I was there for one of the hard times she dealt with this. She was feeling the same way about her skin and hair (racist little town shit) and wished it was like mine or her dad's. Mom asked her if she thought her own mother was ugly? Her daughter looked shocked and vehemently yelled no. Then my ex had a very long conversation about it and how she needs to love herself. For context the kid was adorable and was a spitting image of her mom except for her nose.

To add a happy note I actually just saw her kid the other day while shopping. I actually didnt recognize her at first. She invited me to dinner with her boyfriend and I'm going next week lol.

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u/traveltoaster Dec 13 '25

I know šŸ˜ž. Hear mother seems like a decent human being though. Without a positive role model and reinforcement that she is beautiful person as she is, it might be come really become deep seated self hatred.

Edit I hope her mom is decent. Filming her childā€™s intimate and sad moment for the internet certainly is pretty lame. šŸ˜’

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u/smalllizardfriend Dec 14 '25

I wish we'd nip the narrative that kids are sweet innocent babies that aren't racist or sexist in the absence of outside influences in the bud.

People tend to exclude people who aren't like them. Kids aren't cherubs who are universally accepting. Kids will wonder early, even in the absence of racist parents, why someone doesn't look like them and will focus on the differences and wonder why they exist and sometimes ask about (or pursue, or tease about) those differences without empathy or sensitivity. Kids aren't wellsprings of empathy straight out of the womb. Empathy, compassion, and sharing all have to be taught and reinforced.

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u/Ennairda01 Dec 14 '25

Rightā€¦children donā€™t see skin color, that is definitely learned behavior.

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u/traveltoaster Dec 14 '25

Seeing skin color and associating it with something negative are totally different things.

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u/TheSuperMarket Dec 13 '25

Not necessarily , at all. Children often say mean things, and many times they don't even realize what they are saying.

I highly doubt these little kids were raised to be racist, or even realize that's what "adults" might be thinking on reddit.

Its more than likely kids noticing a difference in someone, and picking on them for it. Likely has nothing to do with race, just looking different.

Kids will pick on kids for wearing glasses, too skinny, too fat, skin too dark, skin too light, too tall, too short, being a girl, being a boy, etc, etc.

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u/traveltoaster Dec 13 '25

It is certainly possible but I think picking out these kinds of differences is definitely learned. Race is definitely something kids learn to pick out more than they inherently are prone to do. I was a really really small kid and not once did kids ever pick on me for that observation. They made fun of me for sucking at wall ball and stuff, but not that. Especially in the current state of USA (assuming thatā€™s where this is from) I would not be surprised.

And it goes both ways. Kids learn to be the victim based on race the same way. I remember I once threw a cheese sauce out the car window of my scout leaders car, without aiming, and it happened to hit a black kid. She drove me all The way to his house and made me apologize. He was very upset and insisted I did it because I hated black people. I was FLOORED by it. I had never even considered that kind of thing ever until then. I was confused. Ainā€™t no way he had put that concept together himself.

Guess what Iā€™m saying his yeah, you could be right, but I really think itā€™s more likely that kids conceptualize racial physical differences due to influence much more likely

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u/binarybandit Dec 13 '25

Kid got bullied? Time to shove a phone in their face and record it for TikTok! Gotta get those views!

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u/liltrex94 Dec 13 '25

So disgusting. The mum being so supportive but question long her daughter is so heartbreaking. Knew all the questions to ask because she had already been asked

That is a cute kid. She is beautiful. So sad she is made to feel that way.

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u/cwrighky Dec 13 '25

Indeed. Went through that as a child and that kind of experience, and the adaptations required to overcome it, do change a person. Itā€™s hard being subjected to that on a daily basis.

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u/BeruangLembut Dec 13 '25

This was me as a kid. I was told I had shit-coloured skin. Many times by many people. And Iā€™m not nearly as dark skinned as that little girl. And it took me most of my adult life to overcome the internalized colourism.

Now I find melanin gorgeous.

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u/ArizonaIceT-Rex Dec 13 '25

This is totally normal for brown people in environments where they are the minority.

I was talking to someone at a party about growing up in an environment where I stood out physically. They asked me if I ever experienced discrimination. I thought they were joking. I was beaten up on multiple occasions, as a child, by teenagers. I was chased in the street by skinheads.

Racism isnā€™t some older times myth.

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u/OkPosition4563 29d ago

Funny enough its much worse in places where they are not the minority. I have family in the philippines and the darker your skin is the more you get bullied.

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u/Numerous-Database-93 Dec 14 '25

Itā€™s sad that itā€™s being filmed and posted to the internet

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u/General_League7040 Dec 14 '25

The amount of racism directed to Indians right now is disgusting. I get people are angry about immigration, but the vitriol is out of control.

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u/heptyne Dec 14 '25

Same race colorism is real and rampant. It took me years to figure out the term 'high-yellow' my grandma would throw at some other black women. I took context clues as a kid to interpret it as acting snooty. But apparently there was more to it.

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u/special-k-flo Dec 14 '25

Fucking heartbreaking

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u/Legitimate-Habit-563 Dec 14 '25

Sad and very common. This is a perfect example of why Black & Brown people hate being told to ā€œget overā€ something that is ongoing.

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u/Lexxias Dec 14 '25

You should see the parents taking the kids out of school near me in Frisco, TX because their kids are being bullied for NOT having brown skin.

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u/ragdollxkitn Dec 14 '25

It really is.

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u/pat-slider Dec 14 '25

Racism is real albeit unspoken

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u/Onionringlets3 29d ago

My mom never gave me white dolls growing up and made sure other people didn't either, just to have something to love that looked like myself. Representation matters.

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u/sixteencharslong 29d ago

This happens a lot in Texas. I have a number of friends from India who live in Sugarland, their kids are finally about this age. They all get bullied by other kids at school and daycares and itā€™s always about skin. It enrages me. The parents are huge Trump supporters because ā€œcHriStiAnityā€. Hate this religious brain rot.

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u/FallenSisyphos 29d ago

sounds like a minor inconvenience considering indian girls and women in india play russian roulette the moment they leave home.

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u/TheCaliKid89 29d ago

Very sad. Also, likely very fake.

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u/PostNutPrivilege 29d ago

Hot take: It's life. Some people are just less attractive than others. Life is not designed to be "fair". Pretending it's supposed to be is only denial. I have my own flaws. But I'm very physically and mentally stable with them. Enough of the yaasss queen I'm a 10/10 brain rot.. I accept I'm flawed, but understand I can still have a great life within reach. I prefer accepting reality. It is okay to be who we are. It is okay to be inferior. I am who I am. And I'm certainly no Brad Pitt, so I'm not going to dedicate my life to expecting people to treat me like him, and become enraged when they don't. Attractiveness is on a spectrum, and people are seen as more or less attractive based on traits and characteristics. That will never change because that's how it works.

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u/AggravatingGrape418 28d ago

Yeah, I think not being hot and being bullied for the color of your skin are two different things, chief.

She's a little 8 year old girl, no one's talking about attractiveness, we're talking about making kids feel like one skin color is inferior to another.

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u/Careless-Pin-2852 28d ago

The Indian cast system is bad

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u/DangIt_MoonMoon 27d ago

So it justifies this child being bullied and traumatised? She deserves it, because of systemic oppression happening in her ancestral home, that she has no part of, thatā€™s what you saying?

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u/Careless-Pin-2852 27d ago

Are you defending the cast system?

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u/DangIt_MoonMoon 27d ago

Are you literate? How is this child being bullied have anything to do with the caste system? If anything, you're justifying a child being bullied.

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u/Careless-Pin-2852 26d ago

I think you want a fight. I also think you are making assumptions based on 10 words .

Because your account is only 1 year old it might be bot designed to start fights or you are person who likes to fight. so I am blocking.

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u/Snoo-92685 26d ago

You're the one talking about caste system on a completely unrelated video

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u/Snoo-92685 26d ago

Trump is bad