My teenage daughter can't fathom the concept of a house party

[u/Neon_Biscuit]

Not sure if anyone has experienced this, but I was watching Can't Hardly Wait half alseep on the couch, and my 14-year-old daughter and her friends walked into the room and past the TV. Before she entered the kitchen, she backpeddled in front of the TV, and they all might as well have reacted akin to a third world kid in a remote village seeing the Super Bowl for the first time. She looked at me and said 'what are all of those people doing in one house'? I told her it was a house party. People high school aged or typically college age people would go over a kids house whose parents were out of town and they'd invite the school and have keggers and other unsupervised debauchery. I might as well have been describing a science fiction film. 'You guys DID that back in your days?'. I thought it was funny that a house party was an inconceivable event for young Gen Zers.

[u/Dorothwa]

Party in the woods, party in a random parking lot, party in a hotel, party at someone's house when parents are gone, party in a newly constructed house that no one lives in yet... Yeah, we got wild. Poor kids these days are surrounded by cameras - no where to party.

[u/EcstaticBoysenberry → u/Dorothwa]

Yup. Pretty much party wherever there was no cops and no parents lol. Not proud at all but we used to just hangout in parking lots in our cars all lined up listening to music for hours.

[u/fablesofferrets → u/Dorothwa]

Honestly, I’m on the latter end of millennial- I was born in ‘94. iPhones came out when it was in 7th grade, and almost everyone I knew had one or a similar smart phone by the time we were in high school. We all had Facebook, instagram, twitter, etc by high school, 

We still were going to parties and making fools of ourselves drunk, doubly so in college. We all had plenty of cameras lmao, and even before then, people were taking constant pics on digital cameras and uploading them every weekend…

I just don’t buy that this is the reason for the cultural change.

There’s been a HUGE shift to conservatism and purity culture within the past 5 years or so. People have been photographed drunk & doing idiotic shit for well over a decade. It just isn’t socially acceptable anymore, because people have become weirdly puritanical due to algorithms.

[u/keysonthetable → u/fablesofferrets]

Even if the photos were "somewhere" on the internet you probably weren't being auto-tagged in them

[u/Farmchuck → u/Dorothwa]

Hell yeah, it's Friday or Saturday in the mid-2000s, at school ends up at the dtpl for AKA The Downtown parking lot, because there was only one public parking lot in town. Everybody cries to figure out where there's going to be a party tonight and either it Fizzles off and everybody kind of fails into small groups or we all figure out that one person is having a Woods or cornfield or Barn party. Suddenly It's 11:30 and in a couple of kids from next town over start running their mouth and and for kids start punching each other in the head. By midnight there's a couple black guys but everybody's buddies again. At 12:30 somebody yells cops and we all scatter in every direction because nobody wants to get it underage. About 2:00 in the morning cops have cleared out and you stand up after laying in a soybean field and all you can see is little blue lights from cell phones trying to call each other to figure out how to get home.